Lesbian Dating
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GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE. “I ask my clients, ‘Where are you the most comfortable?’ And they always say, ‘In my home.’ So I tell them they need to get out of the house. The best thing to do when you’re super-shy is go out tomorrow and just smile at people, at anyone—men, women, kids, dogs, cats. Just do that and see how people respond.”

START WITH SMALL INTERACTIONS. “Once you’re out of the house, randomly say hello to someone in line at the grocery store. Maybe engage in a little small talk and get comfortable ‘with that.”

OBSERVE THOSE AROUND YOU. “What are they doing? What are they saying? Start picking up clues, figuring out your conversational pointers, then use them. Ask people questions, interview them. ‘Is the turkey sandwich good here? Oh really? Have you tried any of their other sandwiches?’ Ask a few questions and see how people respond and get comfortable with that.”

PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE. “We all want instant gratification, but it’s not going to happen overnight. You have to do the work to get the results.”

ENJOY THE RESULTS. “No matter how people respond, positive or negative, it’s still a response. The first one may be horrible, but the more you do this, the more comfortable you’ll get, and the more comfortable you get, the more comfortable other people will be around you. And the next thing you know, you’re flirting with someone.” Of course you will only flirt if you feel the vibe is right and the response is mutual. Remember, most of us lesbian women can pick our one of our own from a mile away, its just a matter of learning to converse and breaking the shyness.